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What to ask when - sets of questions to use in different situations

From what I saw from your readers’s feedback, questions are a focused topic to tackle.

So, here is a collection of sets of questions to use in different situations

What to ask to seek other perspectives or to visualize other people’s mental representations of their reality?

• What do you think about this topic and it is possible that it is not true?

• What are you thinking of?

• How do you do this when it is not working?

• What do you believe about this topic (which does not function) and might not be true?

• What do you feel that I do not get?

• I am wondering what I am missing…

What to ask to help yourself clarify what your objective is:

• What specifically do I want?

• Where am I now?

• What will I see, hear, feel when I have it?" (make it compelling)

• How will I know when I have it?

  What will this outcome get for me or allow me to do?

• What resources do I have now, and what resources do I need to get my outcome?

• For what purpose do I want this? What will I gain/lose if I have it?

  What will happen if I get it?

  What won’t happen if I get it?

  What will happen if I don’t get it?

  What won’t happen if I don’t get it?

Which questions you can ask to switch to a solving mindset?

• What can you change in this situation that is not painful for you?

• How could you look at this situation if you did not feel this way?

• How could you look at this situation differently so that you solve it and not postpone it?

Questions/phrases that help in hard conversations:

• Looks like something just crossed your mind, or?

• How do I know that you will follow through?

• Help me understand…

• I just see my own puzzle pieces, help me understand yours…

Bottom lines:

Questions are powerful. They invite the other person to open up and share their perspective. They help you understand to be understood.

Share in the comments which questions you like to use in your conversations. Let’s make this article a resource for questions from all around the world!