The meaning of your communication is the response you get
If they didn’t get it, maybe you didn’t send it the way they needed
We often think we’ve communicated clearly.
We explained the goal.
We laid out expectations.
We told them what we needed.
But then… they don’t act. Or misunderstand. Or push back.
And we feel frustrated — “But I already told them!”
Here’s the truth that rewires everything:
The meaning of your communication is the response you get.
💬 Reframing the Game
If someone misinterprets you, that’s not a sign they’re difficult.
It’s feedback about your delivery.
If a team doesn’t follow your direction, it’s not always resistance — it may be that the message wasn’t framed in a way they could act on.
When you accept this, you move from transmission mode to connection mode.
You stop saying:
❌ “I told them.”
And start asking:
✅ “What did they actually hear? And how can I make that clearer?”
🧠 Communication Is a Two-Way Strategy
Great communicators don’t just speak well.
They listen to the impact of their words in real time — and adapt.
Whether you're:
– Leading a team
– Coaching a client
– Navigating a personal relationship
…the moment you stop measuring success by what you said, and start measuring it by what’s understood, you become 10x more effective.
🧭 This Isn’t About Censorship — It’s About Clarity
You can still speak with honesty.
You can still be bold.
But you also take full responsibility for how your words land — because your goal is transformation, not just expression.
If you want to change minds, inspire action, or build trust, it starts with asking:
“Is the message I’m sending the one they’re actually receiving?”
Quick challenge:
Think of a recent moment when communication didn’t land.
What might you change about your approach if you took 100% ownership of the result?
References:
NLP Practitioner Program by Gina Veverita