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Thanks for this article, love this so much!

For one: it's a really great exercise (ha, love mind games and puzzles) - but even more so: I love that you looked further and discovered the risk of "killing creativity with fear". So true!

We have to be really mindful with the exercises we use in teamwork, the intention, the setup, the group feelings - so thanks for the reminder and this great example!

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Thank you so much Frauke for sharing your thoughts and I am happy it is useful!

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I like that you create a safe space for learning. Many people remember embarrassing moments from their time in school. They need someone like you.

I had an electronics tutor at university who made me stand in front of the class and showed everyone that I did not understand the topic from the previous week. He asked me several questions to rub it in.

I never wanted to really get into electronics after that.

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Thank you for sharing your experience and I am sorry for what you lived back then! Shaming someone in public is attacking that person psychologically safety by pressing their "status" low and lowering their self esteem.

As I know now how you stand in front of people talking naturally, I can only imagine how much self work you did to create another neuronal highway and do not associate that experience with public speaking!

Wow, thank you for sharing this!

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I realized later that it was about them. Not me. They needed to show off their status.

They were probably also humiliated before and had not reflected much.

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It is very possible. As when you press status negative with your actions to another person , you are raising your status positive. So they might have had this need...

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